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Heartbroken
Dear
Claire,
I
met this guy online a year ago he is my dream guy. My feelings for
him are as strong as can be. I love this guy. The thing is that
he doesn’t love me as I love him.
He
has told me he loves me and that we are soul mates. Last Valentine’s
Day, I received 48 roses, 17 balloons, teddy bears, chocolates, and
he even cooked for me. Six days later, on my birthday, he bought me
a diamond ring, for which he later got me the matching pendant. I’m
21 and he is 20 and there has not been any sexual activity between
us. He goes out with other girls and it breaks my heart when he
tells me. But then I play games and tell him I’m going out as well
which is not true. He tells me that we are too different for each
other, but he can’t let go either.
I
don’t know what to think or feel any more. I sometimes feel that my
heart can’t take any more but I just can’t seem to let him go. What
can I do to keep him with me and not lose the love of my life?
Heartbroken
Dear
Heartbroken,
What
can you do to make him want you? Not one darn thing.
What
makes a relationship is when both want to be with each other,
period. There are no tricks to make someone want to give us
everything we need.
Girlfriend, he’s telling you with a neon sign that he is not ready
to settle down with one girl. If an exclusive commitment is what
you want, look for someone who can give it to you ‘cus ain’t gonna
be balloon boy.
By the
way, since you’ve been telling him that you date other guys, you may
have given him the impression that this is an open relationship.
Tell him what you want, and if he’s not willing, cut your losses and
move on. You’ll be miserable for a while but it’ll be worth it when
you find someone who wants you for real.
Friends
Dear
Claire,
I’m
in middle school faced a problem with a guy. “Sean” has been my
best friend since third grade. I asked him out. He said “yes,” but
then started acting like a jerk. He said he “wouldn’t change for
anyone and to accept him for who he is.” But how can I do that if
he keeps changing and isn’t my friend anymore?
He
refuses to even look at me and says I broke his heart. I’m not sure
if I should try to reconnect with him or let keep thinking what he
wants.
Sad
Dear
Sad,
We all
change so much during the middle-school years! Are you the same
little girl you used to be in third grade?
Since
this is (or used to be) a good friend of yours, go up to him and say
you do accept him and you want to get to know him better. Get to be
his friend again and later you can both decide if you make a good
pair or not.
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