Sex in the City

Dear Claire,

I recently started having sex and I was wondering if you could tell me about styles or positions.  Please help.

New at It

Dear New,

Don’t worry about figuring this stuff all in advance.  As you become more experienced, you’ll find out what’s what, what goes where, and what you like best.  The surprise of each new experience will be part of the fun…y’know, like unwrapping a Christmas gift.

If you are that curious, there are tons of books around that can give you way more detail that I can in this humble column.

Visiting Dignitary

Dear Claire,

I have an adult stepdaughter who visits us often with her pre-teen son.  She is very manipulative and demanding with her father.  She never asks if it's alright to visit...she just tells us she is coming and her dad cannot say no.  When she arrives, she tells him what to cook for her meals.  She never lifts a finger to help in the kitchen before or after meals, never cleans up after herself, monopolizes the television and is very insensitive to my plans and to my family.

Dad does not see this.  He says she needs time to kick back and relax.  That she needs a break from her son, who’s disrespectful, mean and generally very ill behaved.

Both her and my husband usually take to the couch and recliner after meals, take their extended naps and leave me to do all the cleaning and to keep watch over the son.

Occasionally I have removed myself from my home when they visit.  Something I feel I should not have to do so, but do it to keep my sanity.

I have discussed this with my husband and he feels I am making a big issue of nothing.  Any suggestions?

                                              Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

Honey, it’s never a matter of how much BS people are willing to giving you, but how much BS you are willing to take.

Make it clear to hubby that he is going to help you out with any preparations, clean-ups and baby-sitting chores involving his daughter.  Don’t take “no” for an answer and (for crying out loud) don’t do the cleaning yourself, even if the sink-full of dishes is drivin’ you insane in the membrane.

You don’t have to leave the house, but get busy doing something nice for yourself so that you are not available to take care of the poorly raised grandchild.  And if the situation arises, feel free to correct his behavior.  It’s your right to do so in your own home.

Finally, whatever you do and say, do it sweetly and with a smile…y’know, all very friendly… but adamant!

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